During chemotherapy treatments, I had to stay in the hospital for extra days as my body did not clear the chemo in a timely manner. I also slept a lot during those stays and again when I came home due to the effects of the chemo on my body. In retrospect, I realize I lost a lot of time, that I will never return. As a result, I cherish every day and try to make the most of my time.
In the hospital, I would get frustrated when I had to wait for an aide, a doctor, or a nurse, as I did not know when they would return. Minutes seemed like hours; at times, I felt they did not value my time, which upset me. I knew the staff was busy and I was not ‘their only patient,’ but that rationale only lasted so long.
- I always had my smartphone with me and made sure if was fully charged. If I were gone all day, I would also take my phone charger to recharge as needed. I tried not to talk on my phone unless I was in a private room or a secluded area, so I did not disturb anyone else, but I did text and use my email to communicate with family and friends.
- I also logged onto social media sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter. Doing so allowed me to read what everyone was doing, catch up on news briefs and stay connected with other people going about their daily lives.
- As it was important to me, I tried to keep up with trends in healthcare and shared posts that I thought colleagues would appreciate. Reading the responses that people posted allowed me to know I was not alone and had friends and colleagues who valued my opinions and suggestions. I was glad that most of my visits were in buildings with free WIFI, which allowed me to stay connected.
- Talking to people like housekeeping as they cleaned the room, the aide who made my bed, the nurse as she gave me my medications or the people who delivered the food trays also helped pass the time. Most were glad to talk and joke with me as they did their work and appreciated being recognized for what they were doing. I made some good connections, and these people would stop in from time to time to say hello and ask me if I needed anything. This always made me feel good and let me feel I was part of the team.
- During many of my wait times, I would list things I needed my husband to bring if I was in the hospital. Sometimes it was a book I wanted to read or some clean clothes that I could use as my stay was sometimes extended.
- I also put my ‘bucket list’ of places I wanted to go, people I wanted to see or call, and things I wanted to do when I got home. This helped keep me focused and feel useful.
- Another task I found that helped to pass the time was coloring. Adult coloring books are the new craze that many people are trying to help relieve stress. Click here to access a podcast you might want to listen to if you have not heard about this latest craze.
- Many times I used the time to say my prayers which helped me relax and allowed me to let go of some of the fear and frustration that I felt
I love the way you decided to turn something negative into something positive. This article is full of inspiration as well as action items.
Thank you Deanna….appreciate your comment.
Awesome post, Anne. Honestly, I can get very irritated waiting! I'm sure my bp goes up and your ideas/processes about using wait-time in a way that are helpful to you are wonderful. Maybe hospitals etc could provide coloring books and pencils?
What also resonated about your post was the value that respectful communication brings to this very difficult situ in that nurses/docs who explain why you are waiting (w/in HIPPA constraints) makes a huge difference. It seems to me that in these explanations lie respect for your time even when it doesn't change the wait. It is honoring and validating. It also is empowering in a subtle way b/c you i.e. the patient can then make an informed decision about whether you'll continue to wait or perhaps become part of the effort to help someone else. (I'm stuck waiting, yes, but the patient next door just died and his family needs the HC team, I understand, I don't resent my time being spent like that….)
Simple and profound.
Thanks for your comments Beth….agree 200%.
Well, the next time I am forced to wait, I am thinking of this post, Anne! Unfortunately, sometimes in life we are forced to wait and have time to reflect on our life and future goals. Life is too busy, we all need to be able to enjoy the moment, even while "waiting."
This is an excellent post Anne !! IT make such a big difference when the care giver take the time to communicate & explain to patients. It is so important for us as Healthcare providers to communicate with our patients- I am reminded of times when I have to wait for a procedure or test results- Although you want to use the time appropriately while waiting, Waiting is never comfortable- so that time of waiting is not always productive
I found that when I am waiting for a shuttle bus to take me to work (or from work), I can use the time to do self-Reiki, meditation or a visualization exercise. Glad to hear you also make productive use of your time.
So true Dr. Silva…..taking a minute (even when it is 'forced') is so important. Appreciate your post!
Anne
Yes Eva, it can be frustrating and at times destructive…..again, we are not in control…..I think that is when the prayers are most helpful……Giving our frustrations over to God….sometimes is all we can do. Thanks for postin…have a good day!
Thank you Elizabeth….for some interesting tips….I will have to look into them. I read a quote once on by Osho on Meditation…it said Meditation is just a courage to be silent and alone.
Sometimes we are afraid to be alone and silent, but it may be just what we need….
Have a great day and thanks for respondin.
Anne
Great post. Awesome tips! I think it really does make a difference if someone takes the time to explain why you are waiting. It helps people to not feel "forgotten".
I was with a family member recently waiting for surgery. It was a long wait past the scheduled time, and my family member turns to me and says "I know it is a hospital and I have to wait… but they could at least tell me what is going on"?
Something as simple as someone poking their head into your room with a quick apology about the wait can be powerful.
IGreat prespective. I will never look at waiting the same and plan to spread this post and the great concepts to my coworkers and patients in the hospital. Change the world a little at a time. Thank you.
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Thank you for this Anne. Very helpful both from a nursing standpoint but also from the perspective of what to do when I might have to wait one day as a patient.
Honestly, if it weren't for my iPhone, I could it tolerate long waits…
Every facility's patient satisfaction staff should read your post, especially the portion that talks about the value of demonstrating simple courtesy through frequent communication. Great points!